Open letter from DA to a mens' support group:

I am D aka, "OWR" on the ...

I've been in the ... for almost two years since D&W started it back in 2004.

Most of you I have the privilege to know personally and the rest probably saw my posts on... or other forums.

I wan to apologize for the long letter! I just want to share the great experiences I have been having in my life recently and hopefully show you the way to have such experiences for yourself. I promise it is well worth the reading ;)

So we all know the biggest fear facing many yonger (and yes older) men is the fear of approaching women. This fear creates instant hesitation, which leads to anxiety, which then rapidly spirials into self-doubt, creating a complete mess of our inner game. And, we already know that a messed up inner game leads to incrongruent behaviours which women always find suspicious and unattractive. This is a self-fulfilling cycle that crushes the self-esteem of many potentially great men causing them to settle for secondary relationships and crappy jobs.

I even bet that when you think about it, you can see that most sticking points are a result of week inner game as well. After all, the only person stopping someone with weak game from asking for what he wants is himself!

As probably many other men in this situation, I have been going through a very fascinating and exciting journey of self-discouvery and hoining my skills since I discouvered this new and controversial way of living. I have taken several workshops including M & BB's, read tons of books, watched lots of videos and listened to dozens of CDs. I have also been going out, so it was not just pure reading. With so much information I should have acheived everything I wanted a long time ago. And yet my game was at a plateau for a long-long time, it just would not budge. I am sure many of you can relate. That was frustrating.

I dstinctly remember about a year ago how painful it was for me to go out. It was a couple of months after the MM workshop. So I was armed and dangerous. But I just could not make myself approach. Or I would approach 2-3 sets a night, get badly shotdown and retreat inside myself to lick my ounds. My confidence and self-esteem would drop below 0 and I would just hang out with guys not being able to approach at all. That was horribly painful and frustrating. It was some kind of fear that stopped me dead in my tracks. I talked to guys back then and we figured that there is something inside us that is called state and that state had to be radically and desperately changed in order for ANYTHING to happen. And we knew that there is some mythical concept called "inner game" that is responsible for state control, your confidence, your self-esteem. But nobody knew how to improve your inner game or to change your state.

So I understood that in order to move forward I needed to ifx my inner game. Since that day I have been looking for ways to do that. Unfortunately, there was no effective and proven ways to be found. I have tried to listen to Deep Inner Game program by Dr.Paul and David D, I have multiple subliminal CDs like Ultimate Confidence by Ross Jeffries, Energizer, etc. etc. None of that stuff worked unless you are willing to commit yourself to at least a couple of months of working through each product every day. Even then, I did not know anybody who had actually been through any of that stuff and succeeded. So my inner game and hence my progress with women continued to suck.

Meanwhile, I tried to change my outer game, listen to more stuff, try new techniques and switch gaming systems. It's like looking for that magic pill that would finally help me. Deep inside us we know that it does not exist, yet we still keep trying, like flies beating on the window trying to fly through. So to be honest most of what i tried to do was self-deceipt. Actually, I decided that I do not like MM. It just does not suit me personally and I found a system that suits my style better (BB's direct approach). But this is just style. It did not help me to feel comfortable and at ease while talking to women. I would still get terribly nervous and often would not approach. It's like some magical force prevented me from even trying. I had been going through the same vicious cycle of being shot down, which would lead to self blame, which would lead to lowering my self-esteem and confidence, which would lead to more failures. I am sure most of you know what I am talking about or even are going through the same experience. That's been going over and over again and I could not do anything about it. Until I met Sonny.

D&W dropped me a note saying a Master Hypnotist is comming to Vancouver and looks for some people to hang out with. I was just like you, I had no idea what a Master Hypnotist means but I wanted to learn some NLP and hypnosis for a while so I was definitely curious about this guy. His name was Collin Rosati but he preferred for people to call him Sonny. I called Sonny and he told me that he was with some girl in Victoria for several days but he'd be back in Vancouver soon. So we met at some ... meeting on Robson. He turned out to be a really cool guy, open-minded, non-judgemental, very respectful to other people's opinions and willing to learn. He sucked in new information and knowledge like... AMAZING. I immediately liked him.

We hanged out a couple of times, I taught Sonny some outer game as he was almost brand new to the new technology. He read a lot about ...., but being recently separated, Sonny did not have much practical experience. I also wanted to find out more about hypnosis but I did not know what exactly I should ask about it. It was at the time MStyle was visiting vancouver from Montreal So one day I ask Sonny - how does hypnosis work and he said the would show it on MStyle and I could come and join if I want to. Iam adventurous, besides, what's the best way to find out about something than to experience it first hand? So I was like: what the hell!! Sure I'd come. So we agreed to meet up early next morning and try it out. Early next morning - aroun 4pm :-))) MStyle finally made it downtown and we dropped in at Sonny's place to chill a bit. He's got a gorgeous view of the Coal Harbour and Mountains fom the roof. So I was telling them how I was enjoying the view of the cruise ship sliding into the Vancouver harbour from behind the Stanley Park in the wee hours of the morning. Obviously being present in the company of super confident guys who laugh at everything, I was accused of having questionable thoughts. What did I expect using words like behind, sliding, etc.? Then Mstyle and Sonny made jokes about it for the next two hours. Bastards!! :-)

Anyway, we went back into Sonny's place, chilled for a bit and them MStlye and I sat on the sofa and started staring at the wall as Sonny asked us. The wall was empty so I felt really stupid. Then I did not feel anything at all. When I woke up from time to time I heard parts of the sentence like: You'e a new better person now or you're changed and bacame confident an better and something along those lines. Definitely nothing dangerous or negative. I was semi-asleep but at the same time I was in control. In fact I remember many times I adjusted my position as the sofa was not very comfortable. I could have woken up at any time if I did not like it . But it all sounded very positive, confident and actually pretty cool. It was not anything I would not like to hear or to say about myself. So I was very comfortable and relaxed with what was going on. After an hour or so we woke up when Sonny counted to 10 and went to help MStlye buy some souvenirs as it was his last day in Vancouver before going home.

I was feeling spaced out, kinda like realy really relaxed. Nothing mattered much. So obviously I asked Sonny if I should get worried. But he said it's perfectly normal and it's because I just lost a s-load of fears, self-doubts and insecurities - and my body and mind needed to adjust to being without all this extra baggage.

Naturally I was curious what's going on with me. Some funky stuff started to happen the next day. At first it was little stuff. For example, some of you know that I got really crazy rollerblades, that has two huge wheels on the sides. They were supposed to be the best possible attention drawers. But for some reason they were not. Over the couple of months I was rollerblading in them, I got opened by people maybe 5 times. And they were not even hot chicks. Get this! The next day after I the session with Sonny I got opened 7 times during my skate around the Stanley Park! That is more than during the previous 2 months! People could not have changed that significantly. So it was clearly something inside me that was different. So I started paying attention to what's going on around me. And I noticed that people now react to me differently that they used to. Much more open and expressing more interest. That was totally crazy!!!

Do you guys want to hear the best part?  I lost the fear of approach or the fear of rejection or whatever you want to call it. Let me repeat:

I LOST THE FEAR OF APPROACH!!!!

You can't believe how powerful that is!!!

I actually do not care if the chick likes me or not!

I can play around with all kinds of techniques and methods now – just like David D. because I am not attached to the outcome any more!

I don't even care if I have an opener or not!!!

I know it's hard to believe but it's true!!

For example, I was walking along the Sea Wall today and I saw a cute chick on the bench. I was going to write this letter so I was busy. And I still had a little bit of old thinking going on so I let this excuse occupy my thoughts for about half a minute. Then I thought, wait, she's cute, I gotta go talk to her. I turned around and immediately went back about 10 meters to where she was sitting. I thought of opening direct but she was not that beautiful. So at the last second I changed my mind and blurted something like: "I was just walking by, saw you and decided to come and say Hi". We had a nice conversation for about 10 minutes. She was Italian, cute, but very boring. So I went on to sit on the Sea Wall and write this letter to you guys on the laptop.

That was way cool! :-)

See? I don't even have to come up with smart opening lines and remember a bunch of routines any more. I just talk naturally. Whatever comes to my mind! And if she shuts me down – that's ok.   A month ago I would probably spend 10 minutes doing self-talk about how I should approach this girl and eventually in 95% cases I would come up with some lame excuse to talk myself out of approaching!   I am so happy this kind of thinking is in the past now! So I am going to take this opportunity to publicly thank Sonny for the fantastic thing he did to me:

THANK YOU , SONNY!!!! :-)

Anyway,  as I was going through getting used to being new me, I was going to find a job as a Sotware Developer   (my usual thing). But I also am tired of being a geek and talking to geeks :-) So I was looking for other opportunities. And Sonny wanted to start a new hypnosis business in Vancouver .  He's a Master hypnotist, which is the top official qualification of the National Guild of Hypnotists, he's one of the best hypnotist in Canada and he's been doing relationship, money-making, other hypnotic workshops and one-on-one therapy for years in Toronto. So we talked about it and we decided to start a new business together. Our primary target areas were going to be relationship workshops and retreats for women and also hypnosis training we could provide for psychotherapists and psychiatrists. We decided to call it Hypnotic Awakenings.

Business idea was fine, it needed a lot of work, but it was coming along. But as I was going through my big personal change I started to realize that I lost my fear of approach and my Inner Game changed tremendously. It was so unbelievable, it took me a week or even more to realize that! In fact, I did not want to tell anyone because I was afraid to "scare" my results away and somehow lose them. I was like a guinea pig and I was observing myself every day, scared that I wake up next morning turned into my old self. But as the days went by, I was happy to realize that my new powers did not go away and my Inner Game improved permanently! :-)

So, some pleasant August night I was sitting on the Sea Wall looking at the mountains and I thought to myself:

Hell, this is the solution I spent the last year and a half looking for ! It's the solution that instantly and tremendously improved my Inner Game. This is my magic pill!!!

So I rushed to Sonny's place, which was a couple of blocks away and I told him that he should help other guys.

I know so many guys that desperately need help with the Inner Game. And there is no substitute!!!

At first he did not agree as it is not such a great business. He said:

"Dude, we could fix people in one-day seminar. We can't make it three days as they don't need three days of hypnosis! We are not going to do private coaching. We do not need to sell the CDs or DVDs and the eBook on hypnosis does not make much sense. Everyone's game is instantly fixed after just one day! It's not much money…"
No matter, I was so excited with the idea that I convinced him that we could do it at least until we set up and market workshops for women and psychotherapists as we planned originally and make everything up and running. We discussed it a bit more and lo and behold, let me present you the Inner Game Guys!

Inner Game Guys

So now we are Inner Game Guys and I am happy to announce that we are going to do the first workshop in Vancouver at the end of this month! :-)

Inner Game Workshop

So here is a bit more information and details about the upcoming workshop.

Our instructors …

Collin Rosati  is a Master Hypnotherapist, who achieved the top rank and is fully certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists . He has been featured in the Globe and Mail, The National Post and on the CBC. Many people know him as 'The Love Hypnotist' because of the years he spent at the Learning Annex and The Omega Centre, helping women (yes women) to "find true love."   You probably know him as Sonny.

Unlike most Hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners, he does not spend much time asking you to imagine a perfect future or to visualize yourself having success with women.   His clinically tested techniques have even been compiled into two books specifically for Hypnotherapists, and are the backbone for many Therapists who specialize in rapid personal change.

About the workshop …

We designed our seminar in a workshop format specifically to remove the internal conflicts facing many people in the seduction community.   And as you can guess, our workshop seems like a natural complement to many outer game programs that you may have already attended. In fact, it is the best if it the pre-requisite to other outer game programs. As it allows you to have a strong foundation first, on top of which you can build anything you like!